Freedom From or Freedom To

How Hakomi helps…

kenny_smBy Kenny Askew

One of the questions new clients often ask is how many sessions will it take. Certainly if counselling was covered by insurance, they would want to know how many.

Mental and emotional health seem to take on a more nebulous quality than physical health does. With physical health, we can measure healing with the level of pain experienced, with range of motion or functional tests of one sort or another.

No matter where we are in our life process, there is always more to learn, more to experience, new frontiers to explore.

Emotional health is a little trickier. To me, life is a process of learning, growing, and experiencing. No matter where we are in our life process, there is always more to learn, more to experience, new frontiers to explore.

This is where Hakomi comes in. It is a system of assisted self-study. We can help each other and our clients by walking with them in their exploration of themselves and the way they are organized.

Sometimes I think of the self-discovery process as a process that may start out looking for freedom from something… freedom from pain, freedom from fear, freedom from loneliness. At some point, we have freedom to… freedom to create, freedom to make choice. By illuminating our beliefs, habits, and unconscious strategies and programs, Hakomi allows us the freedom to make choices that are conscious.

I think this is where it gets a lot more scary… “You mean it’s up to me? My choice matters? I get to choose? I think I want to go back to thinking it’s my childhood or my mother. If that was different in some way, my world would be whole. I think I’ll go back to freedom from again.”

What creates relief is realizing and experiencing that we have agency in life, that our thoughts and beliefs do shape the world we live in. This of course is where it gets scary, because blame and victimhood don’t work so well when we realize we do have power in our personal lives.

From problems to possibilities, freedom from to freedom to.

On this journey, it is helpful to have someone accompany us. The gentle walk of Hakomi can offer freedom on our path of self-discovery.